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The Science of Happiness: Understanding Our Cognitive Biases

Understanding Our Cognitive Biases

The world we live in continues to change before our eyes probably at a pace that has never been seen before in human history.

Which has led to many people to struggle, feeling unhappy and disillusioned. 1 in 4 people will experience a mental health problem of some kind each year in England with 1 in 6 people reporting experiencing a common mental health problem (like anxiety and depression) in any given week in England (Mind.org).

The Best Self-Improvement Books

The Best Self-Improvement Books

Why are self-improvement books worth reading?

Have you ever tried to build furniture without instructions? It's like trying to solve a puzzle without all the pieces – frustrating and futile. Well, believe it or not, navigating life without reading books can feel just as baffling. Books are like our guides, helping us figure out the crazy maze that is life allowing you to learn from other’s wrong turns.

Think about it: since the dawn of writing, stories have been our secret weapons for learning, growing, and becoming better versions of ourselves. Take for example the oldest surviving book, The Diamond Sūtra, which still has some seriously relevant lessons for us today.

Now, let's not get intimidated by the name. The Diamond Sūtra isn't a spell from a fantasy novel, whatever you do though, do not say it three times in the mirror! It's actually an ancient text that's been around since the first century. And guess what? It's like a wise old friend who knows a thing or two about wisdom, compassion, and reality. The kind of stuff we could all use a little more of, especially in our modern rollercoaster lives.

So, what's this ancient book got to say that still matters? Well, a lot. One of its top takeaways is all about riding the waves of change instead of trying to stop the ocean. Learning to dance in the rain rather than waiting for the storm to pass. And let's be honest, life loves throwing curveballs at us, so being adaptable and rolling with the punches is basically our superpower for personal growth. It shows how powerful books can be that we are still here today referencing its lessons.

As a natural pessimist I would say that books have been fundamental as a tool to coach myself into a more positive and resilient mindset. Without this, I think I would be much further behind with my personal goals and the relationships I have wouldn’t be as strong. 

Below are 5 books that have changed my life and why. 

When you purchase an Evolve Journal here you will receive our full reading list of 24 books.

Books to better yourself

The Obstacle is the Way - Ryan Holiday

If you haven’t heard of Stoicism before, we implore you to check it out!

This book is a good starting point. If you struggle with negativity and everyday challenges and setbacks this book will arm you with all the mental tools to thrive in adversity. Packed full of great stories and ancient wisdom since recommending this to people, we have noticed the positive changes in their perspective and enjoyment in life. 

The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials Into Triumph:  Amazon.co.uk: Holiday, Ryan: 8601411257797: Books

Actionable advice - Stoics believe that no matter what happens to us we remain in control of who we are. With this mentality the only danger comes from within. You may not be able to change situations, but you can always control your reaction.

Happy - Derren Brown

Next, once you are sufficiently convinced that ‘The Obstacle is the Way’, it’s time for a deeper dive into the history of happiness and how we can obtain it. Derren Brown’s book ‘Happy’; delves into the intricacies of human happiness and provides insights on how to cultivate a happier and more fulfilling life. Drawing from a blend of human history, psychology, stoic philosophy, and personal anecdotes, Brown explores what it truly means to be happy and how to attain lasting happiness.

We really love the storytelling and examples used by Brown to illustrate his points.  He emphasises the importance of self-reflection and inner growth as key factors in achieving genuine happiness.

Happy: Why More or Less Everything is Absolutely Fine eBook : Brown, Derren:  Amazon.co.uk: Kindle Store

Actionable advice - if you can do one thing to start your journey into improved happiness, it is to focus only on what you can control. Getting angry and upset about what you cannot control doesn’t serve you.

Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds - David Goggins

We’ve focused our first two books on the mind, now here’s a great book to show you how much you are capable of. This book will have you feeling like any new challenge is possible whilst the previous two will help you enjoy the journey. David Goggins truly is a machine. Give him a quick Google and check out some of his achievements. We listened to the audiobook version and we couldn’t help but go for a run every day. These runs were typically much longer and faster than usual too. So again, with this one, we recommend the audiobook, it even has podcast sections where Goggins discusses bonus content.

Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds: Amazon.co.uk: David  Goggins: 9781544512280: Books

Actionable advice - Goggins argues that a part of ourselves wants to protect ourselves from suffering, so we give up too quickly. Typically this is when we have expended 40% of our potential effort. Most of us, therefore, have 60% left in the tank, ignore the voice in your head and push through so you can give your best every time.

The Laws of Human Nature - Robert Greene

This book will help you understand yourself and others in a deeper way. It will give you insight and advice based on interesting stories and characters throughout history. It will help you to thrive in the chaos and make you show up better in your relationships. The research and the depth of Robert Greene’s insights in his books are second to none. In Laws of Human Nature, you will learn from stories from a range of notable characters, from Coco Chanel to Stalin.

This book provides valuable insights into human behaviour and psychology that will help you navigate social situations and improve your communication skills.

The Laws of Human Nature: Robert Greene: Amazon.co.uk: Greene, Robert:  9781781259191: Books

Actionable advice – think deeply about the trends of human behaviour. With your understanding, you can protect against false leaders. In addition, you can learn from millions of others' struggles so your life can be easier. Don’t ignore their lessons. This book will help you discover your authentic aspirations, prompting you to articulate your life’s purpose and ideally illuminate your path. The depth of wisdom in this book is invaluable, making it a must-read.

Meditations - Marcus Aurelius

There are many different versions translated over time and people tend to have different favourites. We like Gregory Hays as he writes in modern plain English making it one of the more accessible translations. Meditations is a timeless classic and one of the most widely read books in the world. Written by the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius, it is a collection of personal reflections and philosophical musings on life, death, and everything in between. In this book, Aurelius offers practical advice and wisdom that is still relevant today, thousands of years after it was first written.

Actionable advice - Reflect on your life and focus on what you can control rather than what is beyond your control. Practice mindfulness and self-reflection to understand your thoughts and emotions better. Take responsibility for your actions and decisions and strive to live a virtuous life based on reason, wisdom, and compassion.

We truly believe that if everyone read these 5 books, the world would be a better place. We believe so much in the power of books we have created a reading list with 24 of the most impactful books we have read which every Evolve Journal customer receives upon purchase. 

Get in touch if you think we have missed any game-changers!

Why Ancient Wisdom Matters in the Modern World

Ancient Wisdom Matters

How can ancient wisdom help

In a world of constant change and never-ending to-do lists, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and disconnected from our true purpose. But what if I told you that the key to unlocking success and fulfilment lies in ancient wisdom that has stood the test of time? Is it possible to draw on age-old practices to navigate the modern workplace? Join us on a journey where we unravel the secrets of thriving in chaos by tapping into the wisdom of the ages.

How can we use ancient wisdom to help us thrive in the modern workplace?

Humans have come a long way very quickly. It was only in 1903 that the Wright brothers were doing the unthinkable and helping humans take flight. Now, our expectation is that a budget flight, which costs less than a takeaway, shouldn't dare to delay us.

Before we figured out large-scale agriculture, the human race was very much living hand to mouth. Our work was solely focused on survival. Fast forward to today, and we have incredibly niche jobs. From professional snake milkers, with pretty handsome salaries to professional mermaids. There are enough jobs for every skill set and micro-passion to be pursued.

Most of us work in environments that our basic hardwiring isn't well-equipped to deal with. We are designed to form small in groups, and we tend towards fight or flight reactions. We’re not well adapted to deal with a barrage of blue light and notifications each minute. Anyone who has tried public speaking will attest to how unhelpful it can be to be taken over by our hard wiring despite all our rationalising. The amygdala hijack, a surge of adrenaline coming from the fight or flight reaction when there is no real serious threat to safety leaves us stuttering and stumbling through what sounded so beautiful in our heads.

Why do we look to ancient wisdom?

Ancient wisdom has stood the test of time. The stuff that didn’t work that was once considered good practice or wise has been thrown out. There are now only a select few unwise people that drink piss and use leeches for serious diseases.

What has been left is tried and tested knowledge that has been applicable to humans since its inception. Take mindfulness meditation, a Buddhist tradition around 2,500 years old for many time will have been practised because of the experiential benefits. Now we have numerous studies that evidence the positive impact of mindfulness meditation on brain structure and function. Additionally, studies have shown that mindfulness-based interventions can reduce symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression and improve overall psychological well-being.

Often the ideas you see in your new favourite self-help book are not novel and new, they are tried, tested practices of the ancients, repackaged to fit the modern world.

How can we use ancient wisdom to help us thrive in the modern workplace?

Ancient Wisdom can help you Build Empathy and Understanding

Don't look for the splinter in another's eye when there is a log in your own. Empathy and understanding are the name of the game. This is common when leaders have unrealistic expectations and treat people like numbers, hoping to achieve percentage gains.

Marcus Aurelius and the Stoics would say you should search for others' virtues and your own vices. Be tolerant of others and strict with yourself.

The golden rule in Christianity asks us to treat others how we would like to be treated ourselves. With this in mind, it can help us work with more compassion and drive more value for our customers and colleagues. The beauty of reciprocity is that most people will treat you in the way you treat them, too, and your value will be returned in all sorts of ways.

By trying to see things from others’ points of view, you are able to see their strengths, and their diversity of thought brings divergent thinking that can propel you and your teams forward.

Emotional intelligence (EQ) has been shown to be more important than IQ in many professions. It allows you to tap into your EQ when working with others to understand their perspective and pain. Whether it's selling to a customer, trying to get buy-in from a teammate, or understanding that someone who made a mistake also went above and beyond in many ways. Perhaps we shouldn't strive for perfection but for progress.

Manage your Stress with ancient wisdom

A recent study showed that a lot of people report high levels of stress per week in the UK. Stress can have various effects on the mind and body. Not to mention, Dave, you're a right nightmare when you're stressed outside of work.

The Stoics would argue that stress and misery are inevitable, but being stressed and miserable is up to you. Those feelings are choices that are up to you. Manage your stress with positive outlets, change your mindset, and don't sweat the small stuff.

Worry about what is inside your circle of control. If it's outside of your control, it shouldn't bring you misery. Aim to learn that you cannot influence it.

If you often find yourself feeling suffocated by stress and worry, we have some actionable steps for you.

It’s easy to say don’t worry about it, but hard in practice even if you intellectually agree with the concept.

We are fans of the three-minute rule. Take a new setback or unexpected challenge, a big delay or a disrupting change. Set an alarm for three minutes. In that time, you have the freedom to catastrophise, fume, pace up and down, think about how terrible this new development is, whatever floats your boat. When the timer goes off you are no longer allowed to come up with unhelpful answers. Now it’s time to look at what’s inside your control. What if anything, can I do to influence this outcome? What are the lessons I have learnt?

We like to get ahead of stress by conducting a fear-setting exercise regularly.

This exercise asks us to write down all the things inside our control, how we can impact them, and what the action plan is. Write down the things outside of your control that you no longer need to concern yourself with. Remember, you choose how you think or feel about things.

This is extremely powerful if you find yourself unable to sleep. Nothing was ever solved by worrying about it in bed.

Use Stoic Teachings to Take Action

"Memento mori, memento vivere" – remember you will die, remember to live.

This is a big one. How many people do you speak to on a daily basis who hate their boss, dread Monday morning, and are counting down the days until something changes?

The unfortunate reality is that a large portion of people fall into this camp. Admittedly, many of them are taking temporary pain with an exit plan in mind – saving up to go away, building skills to work their way up. However, there are also many people who just accept this as their reality. They view the world through a lens of suckery. School sucked, and now this – thank God for the weekend, hey?

Well, "memento mori, memento vivere" can be a powerful reminder of the finite nature of life. Sometimes, that's what we need to kick us into action. It can help people take on new challenges despite their fears so they don't risk the regrets of living a mediocre life.

It can also help us realise that this very well-paid job sucks all our time, and the golden handcuffs we have worked so hard for stop us from doing what we really love, like spending time with family, going on fishing retreats, taking photos of trains – whatever floats your boat.

Are we working to live or living to work?

The meditation on your own mortality can help take action.

Reflect and Continuously Improve with Journaling

While it’s hard to pinpoint when writing to reflect and ponder first began one of the first examples we have come across comes from the ancient city of Babylon. The Babylonians, around 2,500 BCE, used clay tablets to record daily events, dreams, and personal reflections. These clay tablets served as a form of personal diary or journal.

Journaling is a powerful tool to help collect thoughts and decide what is most important.

Journaling can help you think about your priorities, and your objectives for the next months and years. By using the ancient practice of journaling, not only will we gain scientifically proven health benefits in improved well-being and stress reduction, but we will also be more connected to what is really important to us. We’ll gain all of this while improving our problem-solving skills and enhancing our creativity.

There are many different types of journaling, read our blog here to see which type is best for you.